Comments on: Messed Up http://www.fatcyclist.com/2009/07/27/messed-up/ It's like reality TV. Except it's real. And there's no TV. Fri, 04 Mar 2022 03:21:11 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9 hourly 1 By: kuku666 http://www.fatcyclist.com/2009/07/27/messed-up/comment-page-17/#comment-525565 kuku666 Thu, 08 Sep 2011 16:12:15 +0000 http://www.fatcyclist.com/2009/07/27/messed-up/#comment-525565 Outstanding post. I will bookmark your internet website and be confident to test once more usually. Outstanding post. I will bookmark your internet website and be confident to test once more usually.

]]> By: JoeBruin88 http://www.fatcyclist.com/2009/07/27/messed-up/comment-page-17/#comment-450363 JoeBruin88 Thu, 06 Aug 2009 05:56:01 +0000 http://www.fatcyclist.com/2009/07/27/messed-up/#comment-450363 Elden, That was one of the most honest, gut-wrenching note I have ever read. I just stumbled across your blog, and I'm so sorry for your loss. I wish I could ride for Team Fatty this fall, but I have my own team, Team Tuma. One of my best friend's wife has Stage IV Lymphoma, so I'm riding in the LIVESTRONG Challenge in Austin for them. I did donate some $$ for Team Fatty. Again, so sorry and please know that even though I don't know you, I lifted you and your kids up in prayer tonight for comfort. Best regards and blessings, Gerry Elden, That was one of the most honest, gut-wrenching note I have ever read. I just stumbled across your blog, and I’m so sorry for your loss. I wish I could ride for Team Fatty this fall, but I have my own team, Team Tuma. One of my best friend’s wife has Stage IV Lymphoma, so I’m riding in the LIVESTRONG Challenge in Austin for them. I did donate some $$ for Team Fatty.

Again, so sorry and please know that even though I don’t know you, I lifted you and your kids up in prayer tonight for comfort.

Best regards and blessings,
Gerry

]]> By: brian http://www.fatcyclist.com/2009/07/27/messed-up/comment-page-17/#comment-449788 brian Wed, 05 Aug 2009 21:26:09 +0000 http://www.fatcyclist.com/2009/07/27/messed-up/#comment-449788 This is the toughest climb of your life - sometimes there's nothing to do but grind away and let the pain wash through you. What a blessing that you and your wife can be in your home instead of a hospital for this. Don't worry about your kids. They have a great mom. She's done more good than their dumb dad can undo. You may think you need to be strong for your kids. More likely you need to be weak for them (meaning show them your weakness so they can deal with theirs.) In cycling sometimes you pull and sometimes you are pulled. Trying to pull when you should be pulled slows the whole group. This is the toughest climb of your life – sometimes there’s nothing to do but grind away and let the pain wash through you.

What a blessing that you and your wife can be in your home instead of a hospital for this.

Don’t worry about your kids. They have a great mom. She’s done more good than their dumb dad can undo.

You may think you need to be strong for your kids. More likely you need to be weak for them (meaning show them your weakness so they can deal with theirs.)

In cycling sometimes you pull and sometimes you are pulled. Trying to pull when you should be pulled slows the whole group.

]]> By: Brady http://www.fatcyclist.com/2009/07/27/messed-up/comment-page-17/#comment-449500 Brady Mon, 03 Aug 2009 16:07:09 +0000 http://www.fatcyclist.com/2009/07/27/messed-up/#comment-449500 I just wanted to let you know that I am praying for you, your family, and Susan. When I was a teenager I was diagnosed with a rare brain tumor. i remember the flood of emotions that ran through me and those I loved. You don't have to apologize. There is no way to get a grasp on such circumstances. All I can say is that my faith saw me through the worst of times. May you and your family be encouraged by the many who stand by your side. I just wanted to let you know that I am praying for you, your family, and Susan. When I was a teenager I was diagnosed with a rare brain tumor. i remember the flood of emotions that ran through me and those I loved. You don’t have to apologize. There is no way to get a grasp on such circumstances. All I can say is that my faith saw me through the worst of times. May you and your family be encouraged by the many who stand by your side.

]]> By: Apebike http://www.fatcyclist.com/2009/07/27/messed-up/comment-page-17/#comment-449406 Apebike Sun, 02 Aug 2009 00:32:34 +0000 http://www.fatcyclist.com/2009/07/27/messed-up/#comment-449406 Sorry I'm late to the show, but I just had to speak up. Fatty, you are a straight rock star! The way you stand tall for your family, and have the humility to share your story with the whole world, weaknesses and all, is simply amazing. I watched my mother in law do the slow motion cancer gig, and I saw what her struggle did to my wife and her Dad. Your strength is inspiring, and while none of us can ever take that burden from you, know that there is a world of people out there that are thinking about you daily. Perhaps one day I'll ride in your neck of the woods, and our paths will cross. If so, I'd just like the chance to shake your hand. Sorry I’m late to the show, but I just had to speak up. Fatty, you are a straight rock star! The way you stand tall for your family, and have the humility to share your story with the whole world, weaknesses and all, is simply amazing. I watched my mother in law do the slow motion cancer gig, and I saw what her struggle did to my wife and her Dad. Your strength is inspiring, and while none of us can ever take that burden from you, know that there is a world of people out there that are thinking about you daily. Perhaps one day I’ll ride in your neck of the woods, and our paths will cross. If so, I’d just like the chance to shake your hand.

]]> By: Bryan meyer http://www.fatcyclist.com/2009/07/27/messed-up/comment-page-17/#comment-449384 Bryan meyer Sat, 01 Aug 2009 19:56:53 +0000 http://www.fatcyclist.com/2009/07/27/messed-up/#comment-449384 Long time reader and fan. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. God Bless Long time reader and fan. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
God Bless

]]> By: Jim Board http://www.fatcyclist.com/2009/07/27/messed-up/comment-page-17/#comment-449241 Jim Board Fri, 31 Jul 2009 14:53:18 +0000 http://www.fatcyclist.com/2009/07/27/messed-up/#comment-449241 I can't imagine how you ended up not liking the guy who wrote this, this is the first post on your blog that I have read and I like you already! Please, take whatever opportunities you can to ease up on yourself and to surround yourself with people like the poster's on this blog - it won't take away the anger and pain but you will, at least, have someone to hold you up when it all becomes too much. I can’t imagine how you ended up not liking the guy who wrote this, this is the first post on your blog that I have read and I like you already!

Please, take whatever opportunities you can to ease up on yourself and to surround yourself with people like the poster’s on this blog – it won’t take away the anger and pain but you will, at least, have someone to hold you up when it all becomes too much.

]]> By: Black Cat jason http://www.fatcyclist.com/2009/07/27/messed-up/comment-page-17/#comment-449232 Black Cat jason Fri, 31 Jul 2009 12:36:59 +0000 http://www.fatcyclist.com/2009/07/27/messed-up/#comment-449232 I started reading your blog because it was funny. Now I read it because it is funny and a great example of how beautiful people can be. You are in the middle of the whirlwind right now, but you are not alone and you will never be without love from everyone you know (and quite a few you dont know). Stay strong and keep being you. I started reading your blog because it was funny. Now I read it because it is funny and a great example of how beautiful people can be.

You are in the middle of the whirlwind right now, but you are not alone and you will never be without love from everyone you know (and quite a few you dont know).

Stay strong and keep being you.

]]> By: dc dirtbag http://www.fatcyclist.com/2009/07/27/messed-up/comment-page-17/#comment-449229 dc dirtbag Fri, 31 Jul 2009 12:08:40 +0000 http://www.fatcyclist.com/2009/07/27/messed-up/#comment-449229 Stay Strong! I can't imagine how hard this is, I won't pretend to. I'll just say that I think you are doing the best you can and you're human. You can't always bite your tongue, put on a smile, or be patient. You're dealing with a great deal of grief. Just know that you're not alone. Stay Strong! Stay Strong!
I can’t imagine how hard this is, I won’t pretend to. I’ll just say that I think you are doing the best you can and you’re human. You can’t always bite your tongue, put on a smile, or be patient. You’re dealing with a great deal of grief. Just know that you’re not alone.
Stay Strong!

]]> By: Alison Behan http://www.fatcyclist.com/2009/07/27/messed-up/comment-page-17/#comment-449219 Alison Behan Fri, 31 Jul 2009 09:42:30 +0000 http://www.fatcyclist.com/2009/07/27/messed-up/#comment-449219 I can't pretend to know the heartbreaking time that you are going through right now. I just wanted to add that I think you are a truly amazing person. From what I have read you are a super Dad, wonderful husband and good person. Don't let a few weak moments of anger and resentment think that you are anything less. You are human. You love your wife and are faced with the thought of losing her. Anybody would struggle to cope with that idea. Allow yourself a break. Make these moments count. Be present. Allow others to help you. Talk to the hospice people. Tell them how you are feeling and that you are not up to the task of preparing and organising. They will take you gently by the hand and guide you. Step by step. Praying for your family in Ireland. Hugs Alison B I can’t pretend to know the heartbreaking time that you are going through right now. I just wanted to add that I think you are a truly amazing person. From what I have read you are a super Dad, wonderful husband and good person. Don’t let a few weak moments of anger and resentment think that you are anything less. You are human. You love your wife and are faced with the thought of losing her. Anybody would struggle to cope with that idea.

Allow yourself a break. Make these moments count. Be present. Allow others to help you. Talk to the hospice people. Tell them how you are feeling and that you are not up to the task of preparing and organising. They will take you gently by the hand and guide you. Step by step.

Praying for your family in Ireland.

Hugs

Alison B

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