Comments on: How To Ruin Someone’s Day http://www.fatcyclist.com/2011/11/08/how-to-ruin-someones-day/ It's like reality TV. Except it's real. And there's no TV. Fri, 04 Mar 2022 03:21:11 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9 hourly 1 By: Fat Chick on a Bike http://www.fatcyclist.com/2011/11/08/how-to-ruin-someones-day/comment-page-2/#comment-529326 Fat Chick on a Bike Mon, 14 Nov 2011 04:21:12 +0000 http://www.fatcyclist.com/2011/11/08/how-to-ruin-someones-day/#comment-529326 Please, peeps. Must we go looking for vigilante justice (post description, look up IP addy) on every person who acts like a butt towards bloggers we're fond of? Hammer, I'm sorry this happened to you. in Kindergarden my daughter's little blonde best friend was easily moved to tears by a harsh word. Her teachers would tell her "don't let it ruin your day" Next time I hope you can not let it ruin your day. The mental attitude someone like that inflicts on himself is worse punishment than anything anyone else could do. Please, peeps. Must we go looking for vigilante justice (post description, look up IP addy) on every person who acts like a butt towards bloggers we’re fond of? Hammer, I’m sorry this happened to you. in Kindergarden my daughter’s little blonde best friend was easily moved to tears by a harsh word. Her teachers would tell her “don’t let it ruin your day” Next time I hope you can not let it ruin your day. The mental attitude someone like that inflicts on himself is worse punishment than anything anyone else could do.

]]> By: Six http://www.fatcyclist.com/2011/11/08/how-to-ruin-someones-day/comment-page-2/#comment-528723 Six Fri, 11 Nov 2011 03:37:31 +0000 http://www.fatcyclist.com/2011/11/08/how-to-ruin-someones-day/#comment-528723 Lisa, you handled the encounter perfectly. Please, you and Fatty, don't give this another single second of thought. In my career I encountered such anger, hostility and negativity literally every day. It's sometimes tough to put it aside but he's the real loser here, not you. He'll live his life with few (or no) friends and no one outside his very immediate family who truly and completely love him. You two have a wealth of friends who love and appreciate you. You have your kids and each other and a love of people and life he'll never know, much less understand. He's just a tiny blip in your lives. Don't let him and those like him be anything more. Lisa, you handled the encounter perfectly. Please, you and Fatty, don’t give this another single second of thought. In my career I encountered such anger, hostility and negativity literally every day. It’s sometimes tough to put it aside but he’s the real loser here, not you. He’ll live his life with few (or no) friends and no one outside his very immediate family who truly and completely love him. You two have a wealth of friends who love and appreciate you. You have your kids and each other and a love of people and life he’ll never know, much less understand.
He’s just a tiny blip in your lives. Don’t let him and those like him be anything more.

]]> By: Dan http://www.fatcyclist.com/2011/11/08/how-to-ruin-someones-day/comment-page-2/#comment-528714 Dan Fri, 11 Nov 2011 02:40:44 +0000 http://www.fatcyclist.com/2011/11/08/how-to-ruin-someones-day/#comment-528714 That's a shame. Cyclists should treat pedestrians the way they hope motorists will treat them. That’s a shame. Cyclists should treat pedestrians the way they hope motorists will treat them.

]]> By: Jeremy http://www.fatcyclist.com/2011/11/08/how-to-ruin-someones-day/comment-page-2/#comment-528568 Jeremy Thu, 10 Nov 2011 06:34:42 +0000 http://www.fatcyclist.com/2011/11/08/how-to-ruin-someones-day/#comment-528568 As someone who works with teenagers on a nearly daily basis, I or one of my colleagues are usually graced with a descriptor at the level of that shot toward the Hammer or worse. Let it go. It's not you; it's them. Not worth the time and energy regardless or who is "right" in their understanding of the rules of the trails. And in most cases, whatever caused the shot goes away in a remarkably short time unless there is some serious underlying animosity. Then it devolves into carving the name for you into the desks. As someone who works with teenagers on a nearly daily basis, I or one of my colleagues are usually graced with a descriptor at the level of that shot toward the Hammer or worse. Let it go. It’s not you; it’s them. Not worth the time and energy regardless or who is “right” in their understanding of the rules of the trails.

And in most cases, whatever caused the shot goes away in a remarkably short time unless there is some serious underlying animosity. Then it devolves into carving the name for you into the desks.

]]> By: Cat_Rancher http://www.fatcyclist.com/2011/11/08/how-to-ruin-someones-day/comment-page-2/#comment-528526 Cat_Rancher Wed, 09 Nov 2011 23:39:44 +0000 http://www.fatcyclist.com/2011/11/08/how-to-ruin-someones-day/#comment-528526 I have found that really loud laughter is the best response to those kind of people- in person, or in the car. Being controlling is a power trip for them, and laughing at them completely pops their bubble. It can also make you feel better- kind of like smiling even when you don't feel like it can trick your brain into a more positive frame. I have found that really loud laughter is the best response to those kind of people- in person, or in the car. Being controlling is a power trip for them, and laughing at them completely pops their bubble. It can also make you feel better- kind of like smiling even when you don’t feel like it can trick your brain into a more positive frame.

]]> By: Cyclin' Missy http://www.fatcyclist.com/2011/11/08/how-to-ruin-someones-day/comment-page-2/#comment-528441 Cyclin' Missy Wed, 09 Nov 2011 18:16:44 +0000 http://www.fatcyclist.com/2011/11/08/how-to-ruin-someones-day/#comment-528441 Wow! What a jerky thing to do. I was riding at my favorite trail this weekend, and a guy farther up on the trail approached me in a place where the trail loops back on itself. He yelled that I was going the wrong way, which I wasn't. As I passed by the man, I heard him whisper to himself, "Oh no you're not. I am." Oops! Nice trail police work there, dude. Wow! What a jerky thing to do. I was riding at my favorite trail this weekend, and a guy farther up on the trail approached me in a place where the trail loops back on itself. He yelled that I was going the wrong way, which I wasn’t. As I passed by the man, I heard him whisper to himself, “Oh no you’re not. I am.” Oops! Nice trail police work there, dude.

]]> By: Haven-KT http://www.fatcyclist.com/2011/11/08/how-to-ruin-someones-day/comment-page-2/#comment-528439 Haven-KT Wed, 09 Nov 2011 18:16:06 +0000 http://www.fatcyclist.com/2011/11/08/how-to-ruin-someones-day/#comment-528439 Lisa, kudos to you for saying something. Personally, I would have turned to the man's riding partner and asked if she gets verbally abused by this man too... because that's what it is. Poor woman. I would have also asked the man how he thought he was making the trails safe for everyone. Because it begs the question. He's lucky your dog isn't like my dog and goes from wagging to "PROTECT THE MAMA NOW" in 0.025 seconds. Strangers trigger that, especially yelling angry man-type ones. Lisa, kudos to you for saying something.

Personally, I would have turned to the man’s riding partner and asked if she gets verbally abused by this man too… because that’s what it is. Poor woman.

I would have also asked the man how he thought he was making the trails safe for everyone. Because it begs the question.

He’s lucky your dog isn’t like my dog and goes from wagging to “PROTECT THE MAMA NOW” in 0.025 seconds. Strangers trigger that, especially yelling angry man-type ones.

]]> By: Matt http://www.fatcyclist.com/2011/11/08/how-to-ruin-someones-day/comment-page-2/#comment-528436 Matt Wed, 09 Nov 2011 18:09:35 +0000 http://www.fatcyclist.com/2011/11/08/how-to-ruin-someones-day/#comment-528436 If Man on Trail is really the person in question, Fatty might be able to find the IP address used to post the comment from the stats counter and run it through http://whatismyipaddress.com/ to get the guy's location. With location in hand the internet would reveal all sorts of details about his identity, which could be posted to a follow up on this blog. Anyone more tech savvy than me know if this will work? If Man on Trail is really the person in question, Fatty might be able to find the IP address used to post the comment from the stats counter and run it through http://whatismyipaddress.com/ to get the guy’s location. With location in hand the internet would reveal all sorts of details about his identity, which could be posted to a follow up on this blog. Anyone more tech savvy than me know if this will work?

]]> By: davidh-marin, ca http://www.fatcyclist.com/2011/11/08/how-to-ruin-someones-day/comment-page-2/#comment-528435 davidh-marin, ca Wed, 09 Nov 2011 17:40:38 +0000 http://www.fatcyclist.com/2011/11/08/how-to-ruin-someones-day/#comment-528435 It's disappointing to me that our scorn for the 'Man on the Trail' has succumbed to the same level of 'trash talk' as the rider. Fatty once said; "Keep the language clean. If I wouldn’t be comfortable saying the words to my 10-year-old daughters, I won’t use them in my blog. Oct. 13, 2011" Needless to say I would prefer my 10 year old daughter not read this, call me naive. I do not disagree with any description of the 'Man on the Trail', I just think we are capable of a higher ground. The English language, and especially the British language, is ripe with choice retorts. It’s disappointing to me that our scorn for the ‘Man on the Trail’ has succumbed to the same level of ‘trash talk’ as the rider.

Fatty once said;
“Keep the language clean. If I wouldn’t be comfortable saying the words to my 10-year-old daughters, I won’t use them in my blog. Oct. 13, 2011″

Needless to say I would prefer my 10 year old daughter not read this, call me naive.

I do not disagree with any description of the ‘Man on the Trail’, I just think we are capable of a higher ground. The English language, and especially the British language, is ripe with choice retorts.

]]> By: Head Smacker http://www.fatcyclist.com/2011/11/08/how-to-ruin-someones-day/comment-page-2/#comment-528430 Head Smacker Wed, 09 Nov 2011 17:20:21 +0000 http://www.fatcyclist.com/2011/11/08/how-to-ruin-someones-day/#comment-528430 Did anybody else notice Man on Trail's comment? I can only assume he is the rider in question. Honey, you are the same type of d-bag who screamed at me during a CHARITY ride several months ago for having the audacity to attempt to be on the same trail as him. I had also moved completely off the trail after hearing riders coming up behind me at a much faster pace than I was riding. I don't care what kind of day you're having or who pissed in your Cheerios. You do NOT treat others like that. I hope you receive the same treatment you gave The Hammer...tenfold. Love, a longtime and loyal Fatty reader and 1st-time commenter. Did anybody else notice Man on Trail’s comment? I can only assume he is the rider in question.

Honey, you are the same type of d-bag who screamed at me during a CHARITY ride several months ago for having the audacity to attempt to be on the same trail as him. I had also moved completely off the trail after hearing riders coming up behind me at a much faster pace than I was riding. I don’t care what kind of day you’re having or who pissed in your Cheerios. You do NOT treat others like that. I hope you receive the same treatment you gave The Hammer…tenfold.

Love, a longtime and loyal Fatty reader and 1st-time commenter.

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