Comments on: How Not to Say Thanks http://www.fatcyclist.com/2012/02/27/how-not-to-say-thanks/ It's like reality TV. Except it's real. And there's no TV. Fri, 04 Mar 2022 03:21:11 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9 hourly 1 By: Rob W http://www.fatcyclist.com/2012/02/27/how-not-to-say-thanks/comment-page-1/#comment-556272 Rob W Wed, 29 Feb 2012 16:20:01 +0000 http://www.fatcyclist.com/2012/02/27/how-not-to-say-thanks/#comment-556272 Fatty, Thanks! I have never met you, and yet feel close to you. You are a great writer and really draw people in with your story. Fatty,
Thanks! I have never met you, and yet feel close to you. You are a great writer and really draw people in with your story.

]]> By: Michael http://www.fatcyclist.com/2012/02/27/how-not-to-say-thanks/comment-page-1/#comment-556266 Michael Wed, 29 Feb 2012 03:32:30 +0000 http://www.fatcyclist.com/2012/02/27/how-not-to-say-thanks/#comment-556266 Makes me feel better about being a jerk in his early 30s. You're a great writer, Elden. Thanks for sharing. Makes me feel better about being a jerk in his early 30s. You’re a great writer, Elden. Thanks for sharing.

]]> By: MAUREEN http://www.fatcyclist.com/2012/02/27/how-not-to-say-thanks/comment-page-1/#comment-556263 MAUREEN Wed, 29 Feb 2012 01:29:18 +0000 http://www.fatcyclist.com/2012/02/27/how-not-to-say-thanks/#comment-556263 Thanks for sharing this very difficult situation. It seems cancer and illness have hit my circle of friends quite hard. Your posts are really valuable. I hope I can step up more effectively and more often. My wishes for you are peace and love --for all of your bravery, honesty and courage. Your family is truly blessed with you:) Thanks for sharing this very difficult situation. It seems cancer and illness have hit my circle of friends quite hard. Your posts are really valuable. I hope I can step up more effectively and more often. My wishes for you are peace and love –for all of your bravery, honesty and courage. Your family is truly blessed with you:)

]]> By: Ronna http://www.fatcyclist.com/2012/02/27/how-not-to-say-thanks/comment-page-1/#comment-556259 Ronna Wed, 29 Feb 2012 00:17:25 +0000 http://www.fatcyclist.com/2012/02/27/how-not-to-say-thanks/#comment-556259 This is why it will be so easy to buy the next book. Thank you for making it so real. This is why it will be so easy to buy the next book. Thank you for making it so real.

]]> By: Skippy http://www.fatcyclist.com/2012/02/27/how-not-to-say-thanks/comment-page-1/#comment-556258 Skippy Tue, 28 Feb 2012 20:46:21 +0000 http://www.fatcyclist.com/2012/02/27/how-not-to-say-thanks/#comment-556258 Nurse Betsy says it all ! Those people were enjoying showing their love for your family ! Jeff R 's story proves that you were acting in a perfectly normal way AND if any of those neighbours read this they will be telling you they had not expected a pat on the back . Glad i never had the responsibilities you had to face in the most difficult of circumstances ! Nurse Betsy says it all ! Those people were enjoying showing their love for your family ! Jeff R ’s story proves that you were acting in a perfectly normal way AND if any of those neighbours read this they will be telling you they had not expected a pat on the back .

Glad i never had the responsibilities you had to face in the most difficult of circumstances !

]]> By: Leslie http://www.fatcyclist.com/2012/02/27/how-not-to-say-thanks/comment-page-1/#comment-556257 Leslie Tue, 28 Feb 2012 20:18:27 +0000 http://www.fatcyclist.com/2012/02/27/how-not-to-say-thanks/#comment-556257 Very powerful, very honest. Most of us do not enjoy asking for or accepting help, even though so many people want--and need--to help during a tough time. Thank you for sharing your experience. Very powerful, very honest. Most of us do not enjoy asking for or accepting help, even though so many people want–and need–to help during a tough time. Thank you for sharing your experience.

]]> By: Angie http://www.fatcyclist.com/2012/02/27/how-not-to-say-thanks/comment-page-1/#comment-556255 Angie Tue, 28 Feb 2012 18:00:32 +0000 http://www.fatcyclist.com/2012/02/27/how-not-to-say-thanks/#comment-556255 Thank you for being so honest. It makes me feel like I don't have to be perfect all the time. I get selfish about things that cut into my riding time and then I feel guilty because what it always boils down to it this: People who care about me want to spend time with me, and I have to make choices about what's important in life. I have had a couple scares where something serious came along; my Dad's cancer and my husband's father's death and his Mom's subsequent health problems. Each time, as the reality of the demands on my personal time became apparent, the resentment would build inside me. I couldn't wait for life to return to normal so I could do what I want to do. I'd keep the feelings to myself because I felt bad for feeling them. It's good to know that other people have a hard time dealing with life's difficulties too. Thank you for being so honest. It makes me feel like I don’t have to be perfect all the time. I get selfish about things that cut into my riding time and then I feel guilty because what it always boils down to it this: People who care about me want to spend time with me, and I have to make choices about what’s important in life. I have had a couple scares where something serious came along; my Dad’s cancer and my husband’s father’s death and his Mom’s subsequent health problems. Each time, as the reality of the demands on my personal time became apparent, the resentment would build inside me. I couldn’t wait for life to return to normal so I could do what I want to do. I’d keep the feelings to myself because I felt bad for feeling them. It’s good to know that other people have a hard time dealing with life’s difficulties too.

]]> By: Kari http://www.fatcyclist.com/2012/02/27/how-not-to-say-thanks/comment-page-1/#comment-556252 Kari Tue, 28 Feb 2012 16:52:37 +0000 http://www.fatcyclist.com/2012/02/27/how-not-to-say-thanks/#comment-556252 Having been the one in need of such caregivers, a child of a caregiver at other times in my life (my mother did it for my Grandmother and now all of her siblings are jumping in for the Step-Grandmother too) and working as a caregiver now, I understand fully the guilt of not being able to do everything perfect, to do more, to say more, to be more in every way to everybody. Do not beat yourself up over it. Sometimes the things that most need saying are the hardest ones to say. I think the post you wrote about it now will mean much, much more to all of those people who gave so selflessly to you then than any thanks you could possibly have mumbled between rushing back and forth packing, working, taking care of kids and of Susan, and everything else at the time. Having been the one in need of such caregivers, a child of a caregiver at other times in my life (my mother did it for my Grandmother and now all of her siblings are jumping in for the Step-Grandmother too) and working as a caregiver now, I understand fully the guilt of not being able to do everything perfect, to do more, to say more, to be more in every way to everybody. Do not beat yourself up over it. Sometimes the things that most need saying are the hardest ones to say. I think the post you wrote about it now will mean much, much more to all of those people who gave so selflessly to you then than any thanks you could possibly have mumbled between rushing back and forth packing, working, taking care of kids and of Susan, and everything else at the time.

]]> By: Doug (Way upstate NY) http://www.fatcyclist.com/2012/02/27/how-not-to-say-thanks/comment-page-1/#comment-556251 Doug (Way upstate NY) Tue, 28 Feb 2012 16:52:36 +0000 http://www.fatcyclist.com/2012/02/27/how-not-to-say-thanks/#comment-556251 This post helps me to remember to be kind and patient with people. I have no idea what they may be going through or where they may be at. This post helps me to remember to be kind and patient with people. I have no idea what they may be going through or where they may be at.

]]> By: Fat Monte http://www.fatcyclist.com/2012/02/27/how-not-to-say-thanks/comment-page-1/#comment-556250 Fat Monte Tue, 28 Feb 2012 16:47:21 +0000 http://www.fatcyclist.com/2012/02/27/how-not-to-say-thanks/#comment-556250 Honesty Mastermind. True stories of faith, regret, hope, despair, appreciation and understanding. Honesty Mastermind.

True stories of faith, regret, hope, despair, appreciation and understanding.

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