You’re one of those people who does know what to say. Thank you for that.

Unfortunately, over the years I’ve had friends or colleagues that passed away too soon and left young children behind. I always take a few days and compose a letter with some of my memories of that person, so the children can have that or look at later when they are old enough to understand. I also include contact information so they can contact me some day if they want to chat. My husband’s own mother passed away when he was fairly young, and recently he enjoyed getting to know a different side of her by getting in contact with her college roommate. I try to get across that their loved one will live on in my memory.

My students were shocked when they realized the plan is for me to lock my door and then go into the hall to lock the next two doors that circuitously lead to my classroom. “What would you do if the gunman came up on you,” they asked. Without hesitation I replied, “I’d do everything in my power to get those doors locked and my keys under the door so someone with a gun can’t get to you.” Most of them thought it was a pretty lousy plan. With a wry smile, I would have to agree but acknowledge we can only do with what we are given. I would echo Jenni. We have a plan, however good or bad it might really be, to ensure the safety of our charges and we will do everything in our power to keep our students safe.

As a parent, I realize that won’t calm anyone’s nerves. It’s hard to face the reality that life is risky and we cannot keep our kids safe at all times, however much we want to. There is much healing to do. I appreciate your words.