Comments on: Going Dark http://www.fatcyclist.com/2016/04/06/going-dark/ It's like reality TV. Except it's real. And there's no TV. Fri, 04 Mar 2022 03:21:11 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9 hourly 1 By: rb http://www.fatcyclist.com/2016/04/06/going-dark/comment-page-1/#comment-668558 rb Sat, 09 Apr 2016 23:42:05 +0000 http://www.fatcyclist.com/2016/04/06/going-dark/#comment-668558 Every time I read one of these excerpts something gets in my eye. And the family asks if I'm alright. I have a few friends fighting a battle with depression. they share a lot, but I know I don't really get it. This helps. Hopefully sharing with them will help also. Every time I read one of these excerpts something gets in my eye. And the family asks if I’m alright.

I have a few friends fighting a battle with depression. they share a lot, but I know I don’t really get it. This helps. Hopefully sharing with them will help also.

]]> By: Kelly http://www.fatcyclist.com/2016/04/06/going-dark/comment-page-1/#comment-668557 Kelly Sat, 09 Apr 2016 02:26:35 +0000 http://www.fatcyclist.com/2016/04/06/going-dark/#comment-668557 I was an endurance mtber five weeks out from my longest race when I was dx w a rare cancer. Not only did I have to wrap my head around the dx but surgery and treatment left me unable to ride. When I finally got the all clear to ride, the dramatic decrease in my strength and endurance was extremely depressing. What once gave me such joy now made me frustrated. I soooo miss what I had. Cancer takes so much. And yes, when treatment is finished, others feel you must be cured. In my case, the goal is to keep me in remission as long as possible. Live each day to the fullest, continue to reach out to your friends even when their treatment ends and encourage them to express their thoughts and feelings. I was an endurance mtber five weeks out from my longest race when I was dx w a rare cancer. Not only did I have to wrap my head around the dx but surgery and treatment left me unable to ride. When I finally got the all clear to ride, the dramatic decrease in my strength and endurance was extremely depressing. What once gave me such joy now made me frustrated. I soooo miss what I had. Cancer takes so much. And yes, when treatment is finished, others feel you must be cured. In my case, the goal is to keep me in remission as long as possible. Live each day to the fullest, continue to reach out to your friends even when their treatment ends and encourage them to express their thoughts and feelings.

]]> By: adina http://www.fatcyclist.com/2016/04/06/going-dark/comment-page-1/#comment-668556 adina Fri, 08 Apr 2016 20:19:56 +0000 http://www.fatcyclist.com/2016/04/06/going-dark/#comment-668556 Thanks for this painful and honest post. I have a family member who suffers from severe depression from time to time. When she has "gone dark" and I talk with friends about it, everyone seems to have a loved one who suffers from depression. It is so much more common that I ever knew. You never know which person you meet might be suffering from depression and doing their best to cover it up. I am very sorry for your loss. I am glad it prompted you to share this post. Thanks for this painful and honest post. I have a family member who suffers from severe depression from time to time. When she has “gone dark” and I talk with friends about it, everyone seems to have a loved one who suffers from depression. It is so much more common that I ever knew. You never know which person you meet might be suffering from depression and doing their best to cover it up.

I am very sorry for your loss. I am glad it prompted you to share this post.

]]> By: Tes http://www.fatcyclist.com/2016/04/06/going-dark/comment-page-1/#comment-668555 Tes Fri, 08 Apr 2016 19:17:21 +0000 http://www.fatcyclist.com/2016/04/06/going-dark/#comment-668555 I'm so sorry for your loss. This video encourages people to view depression differently. https://www.facebook.com/UpworthyVideo/videos/806056189498930/ Perhaps you can help spread it. I have nothing to do with the video, I just feel it does a great job. I’m so sorry for your loss.

This video encourages people to view depression differently. https://www.facebook.com/UpworthyVideo/videos/806056189498930/

Perhaps you can help spread it. I have nothing to do with the video, I just feel it does a great job.

]]> By: Clydesteve http://www.fatcyclist.com/2016/04/06/going-dark/comment-page-1/#comment-668549 Clydesteve Fri, 08 Apr 2016 03:56:02 +0000 http://www.fatcyclist.com/2016/04/06/going-dark/#comment-668549 Nicely said, Fatty. Wife & daughter - maybe you have given me some useful insight. Nicely said, Fatty. Wife & daughter – maybe you have given me some useful insight.

]]> By: Ferde http://www.fatcyclist.com/2016/04/06/going-dark/comment-page-1/#comment-668547 Ferde Thu, 07 Apr 2016 12:50:37 +0000 http://www.fatcyclist.com/2016/04/06/going-dark/#comment-668547 Well said. Well said.

]]> By: Shugg McGraw http://www.fatcyclist.com/2016/04/06/going-dark/comment-page-1/#comment-668546 Shugg McGraw Thu, 07 Apr 2016 09:14:02 +0000 http://www.fatcyclist.com/2016/04/06/going-dark/#comment-668546 Brave stuff - and educational. You've been through the fire. My brother-in-law is going through chemo at the moment, I'll try and take this on board. Brave stuff – and educational. You’ve been through the fire. My brother-in-law is going through chemo at the moment, I’ll try and take this on board.

]]> By: leroy http://www.fatcyclist.com/2016/04/06/going-dark/comment-page-1/#comment-668545 leroy Thu, 07 Apr 2016 04:02:31 +0000 http://www.fatcyclist.com/2016/04/06/going-dark/#comment-668545 Thank you for writing this. And to those who have shared their stories in the comments, thank you too. Thank you for writing this. And to those who have shared their stories in the comments, thank you too.

]]> By: Lin http://www.fatcyclist.com/2016/04/06/going-dark/comment-page-1/#comment-668544 Lin Wed, 06 Apr 2016 21:41:57 +0000 http://www.fatcyclist.com/2016/04/06/going-dark/#comment-668544 Thank you, everyone. Fatty, for the post, and readers for your comments. This is powerful stuff. Should be required reading for everyone. <3 Thank you, everyone. Fatty, for the post, and readers for your comments. This is powerful stuff. Should be required reading for everyone. <3

]]> By: Melanie http://www.fatcyclist.com/2016/04/06/going-dark/comment-page-1/#comment-668543 Melanie Wed, 06 Apr 2016 21:23:00 +0000 http://www.fatcyclist.com/2016/04/06/going-dark/#comment-668543 Today's post hit home very strongly. First, let me say thank you for helping others understand how complex depression can be. I recently lost my father to cancer and I was his primary caregiver. Like you, I question some of my decisions: Could I have done more? Should I have done more? I did a lot for him, but how is one to know what is the right thing? I struggled heavily with depression after losing him and didn't share my battle with anyone. I felt no one truly understood. I'm slowly regaining a better frame of mind, but it's not an easy task. You did Susan a great service by caring for her and doing all you did for her. Today’s post hit home very strongly. First, let me say thank you for helping others understand how complex depression can be. I recently lost my father to cancer and I was his primary caregiver. Like you, I question some of my decisions: Could I have done more? Should I have done more? I did a lot for him, but how is one to know what is the right thing?

I struggled heavily with depression after losing him and didn’t share my battle with anyone. I felt no one truly understood. I’m slowly regaining a better frame of mind, but it’s not an easy task.

You did Susan a great service by caring for her and doing all you did for her.

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